Getting healthy

Since getting married, I’ve been putting on some weight. My BMI wasn’t bad since I’m a skinny guy, but I had a noticeable pooch in my belly, and I wasn’t able to wear some of my tighter fitting pants anymore. I’ve tried working out before, but I wasn’t disciplined in both my exercise and diet. I decided to do something about it again this year for my birthday, and so far I’ve been doing much better. I’ve been exercising nearly every day and cutting down on how much I am eating as well as avoiding snacking late at night.

I’ve now gotten myself up to 20 pull ups, 60 push ups, and 100 sit ups. I would have posted my progress earlier, but frankly speaking, it was embarrassing and I also wanted to make sure I was going to be consistent. I can’t really tell yet if it’s helping with the mid-section bulge, but at least I’m getting in better shape. Hopefully I’ll eventually get the results I want if I give it enough time.

Inside out

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When I look around me I see nothing amiss.  The sun shines, a breeze blows, and the trees sway gently under their ministration.

But when I look within, a melancholic discord grips me, and all serenity flees.  The hollow despair leaves me shaken and alone.

INTJ: The Mastermind

Mastermind (role variant)

Masterminds are introspective, pragmatic, directive, and attentive. As strategists, they are better than any other type at brainstorming approaches to situations. Masterminds are capable but not eager leaders, stepping forward only when it becomes obvious to them that they are the best for the job. Strong-willed and very self-assured, they may make this decision quickly, as they tend to make all decisions. But though they are decisive, they are open to new evidence and new ideas, flexible in their planning to accommodate changing situations. They tend to excel at judging the usefulness of ideas and will apply whatever seems most efficient to them in accomplishing their clearly envisioned goals. To Masterminds, what matters is getting it done—but also learning the principles of how to get it done efficiently and well, that is, at a professional level of quality. However, they may not give much thought to the social cost of getting there, “focusing so tightly on their own pursuits [that] they can ignore the points of view and wishes of others.”

INTJ

INTJs apply (often ruthlessly) the criterion “Does it work?” to everything from their own research efforts to the prevailing social norms. This in turn produces an unusual independence of mind, freeing the INTJ from the constraints of authority, convention, or sentiment for its own sake … INTJs are known as the “Systems Builders” of the types, perhaps in part because they possess the unusual trait combination of imagination and reliability. Whatever system an INTJ happens to be working on is for them the equivalent of a moral cause to an INFJ; both perfectionism and disregard for authority may come into play … Personal relationships, particularly romantic ones, can be the INTJ’s Achilles heel … This happens in part because many INTJs do not readily grasp the social rituals … Perhaps the most fundamental problem, however, is that INTJs really want people to make sense.
—Marina Margaret Heiss

I really found this page (Team Technology: INTJ Personality Types) very helpful, especially the last section on recognizing stress symptoms. And I found the webpage “How to handle an INTJ” hilarious and insightful. And as another website said, “Remember, their aim is always maximum efficiency.”

Friends

I wake and greet the rising sun
and the rising sun wakes to greet me
with the same prodigious light that shines
on the righteous and the wicked.

I rise and welcome the morning rain
and the morning rain welcomes me in return
with the gentle clap of a thousand drops
ungrudging in their gift.

I shake myself and kiss the wind
and the wind shakes me with its kisses
pressing against me with persistent joy
of lovers reunited

But the bonds of friend and family
accord a different kind of affair
they love the character I play
but not the man beneath

I’m back

I had some database problems, but everything is all better thanks to the people @ weblogs.us.  Special thanks to JD for his patient help.  I’ll be back to blogging with one of my eye watering, mind numbing blog posts tomorrow.  Even got something in the works, so it won’t take long at all.

Experience

By three methods we may learn wisdom: First, by reflection, which is noblest; Second, by imitation, which is easiest; and third by experience, which is the bitterest.

And yet it seems to be the most common way we learn. But I don’t think it is that we are learning. Rather, it is the accumulation of negative experience that finally provides us with the impetus for changing our behavior. We are predisposed to immediate gratification, and it is only with the build up of experience that these channels can be altered to allow for the redirection of our affections and behavior.

Love

Love it will not betray you
Dismay or enslave you, it will set you free
Be more like the man you were made to be
There is a design, an alignment, a cry
Of my heart to see,
The beauty of love as it was made to be

~ Mumford & Sons – Sigh No More